Comments on Aletha VanderMaas | Inspiring Fresh Ideas: Resolving Personal Conflict

good for you and even better for you for sharing. ...

2009-09-27T15:49:56.443-04:00

good for you and even better for you for sharing. as always, very well said. thanks for sharing!

Great Post! Thank you for reminding us the importa...

2009-09-04T09:50:15.719-04:00

Great Post! Thank you for reminding us the importance of positive relationships.

I just love reading anything in your face book pag...

2009-09-03T08:47:43.507-04:00

I just love reading anything in your face book page and or blogs. You are so positive and happy all the time! Conflict is a horrible situation to be in-jealousy, insecurity and greed can effect a lot of people in a negative way. I know firsthand-you can be the nicest person in the world-but you can't make people like you. There will always be folks out there who have issues that they need to work on .

I admire your tenacity and all the good energy that you put out there! You are a very talented young lady with a passion for life! Keep Up the great work :-).

Agreed. Confronting is the best way to go. Howev...

2009-09-02T21:19:11.181-04:00

Agreed. Confronting is the best way to go. However there are people out there who think they are right no matter what you say, regardless of the facts backing it up, etc. Sometimes you just have to move on. But I usually at least try to compromise. nobody is perfect!

Great post, Aletha. Thank you for sharing your ex...

2009-09-02T20:07:59.829-04:00

Great post, Aletha. Thank you for sharing your experience.

Thank you for the comments, ladies. Saundra - yo...

2009-09-02T18:45:20.210-04:00

Thank you for the comments, ladies.

Saundra - you bring up a great point. I often forget that I cannot be in control - occupational hazard, I suppose. Thank you for reminding me.

Bravo. While confrontation isn't fun, it IS a muc...

2009-09-02T18:29:59.864-04:00

Bravo. While confrontation isn't fun, it IS a much better choice than harboring anger or hurt any longer than necessary. So many conflicts are from misunderstandings, all to common in this age of written communication.

Aletha, that is a very well written post. And appl...

2009-09-02T18:20:52.322-04:00

Aletha, that is a very well written post. And applicable to all of us.

Remember too, that you (nor I) can change other people's perceptions. You can go through point by point, but they still may have a grudge or hold on to something that angers them. I've let that become their problem.

Then again, it is good to stand up for yourself and it is always better to be direct with a conflict. Often it can be resolved easily, and if it cannot, at least you said your peace.

Your candor is very refreshing. It's so true - con...

2009-09-02T18:17:03.969-04:00

Your candor is very refreshing. It's so true - conflict can REALLY eat you alive, but even more than that, it can make you change your behavior in ways that are unbecoming. Clearly, you both were mature enough to 'mend' the situation. My hat's off to you!